People Are Loving Shibari and Here’s Why

The literal translation of shibari is to tie. Yet, some call this Far-Eastern kinky practice kinbaku, which means tight binding. Either way, it’s a pretty popular way of spicing things up, especially if you’re into BDSM and any of its derivatives.

 

Interestingly enough, shibari comes to us from a martial art/torture technique that the Japanese would use on criminals and prisoners. But it found its way into the theater next, and now, finally, it’s in our bedrooms too.

 

In the following few paragraphs, we’ll let you in on a few ideas that explain why shibari is so popular in the West. You might, hopefully, try it out, too, at some point.

Appreciation of Being Tied

Seeing how shibari isn’t your run-of-the-mill bondage stuff, there’s a certain art to it. After all, it wouldn’t have found its place in Japanese theaters in the previous century if that weren’t the case. If participants know what they’re doing, they can bring a lot of style to it, minimizing the torture side of things. Of course, that’s how shibari works for some. But others don’t like pain.

 

Other kinksters simply find joy in being tied or watching their partners in rope bondage, struggling to maintain balance. It’s the S&M part of BDSM, through and through. Shibari allows people to travel into dark, disturbing places, which is something they often truly want. However, it can help relax muscles, even if it doesn’t look like that at first.

Fulfillment From Entrusting Safety

Unfortunately, shibari isn’t something BDSM newbies should rush into. It’s a serious business that requires lots of training and preparation. If you take it lightly, it can lead to numerous nerve and muscle injuries, which won’t be anywhere near pleasant. Yet, this is where another reason why people love shibari comes into play.

 

Namely, doing something dangerous with your partner requires lots of trust. So, if you allow them to tie you up like this, you demonstrate how much you’re confident in them and their ability to properly take care of you. So, we can say that shibari art is great training for any BDSM couple working on tightening their bond.

Deeper Emotional Connection

Like we’ve said, people in shibari ropes travel to dark but, for them, comfortable places. It’s all calm and dream-like, with the only things left being sensations and emotions. Still, different parts of shibari cause different sensations. For example, the chest tie makes people feel grounded, allowing them to accept their inner fight and conflict.

 

However, over time, people learn to tune these sensations down. They endure them and allow cold sweat to cover them. Once it does, their muscles relax, and they accept how vulnerable we as humans are. In other words, we can think about shibari as a way to appreciate our place and find coordinates in the grander scheme of things.

Stress-Free Distraction

Although it might seem like the opposite at first, shibari is a great way to relieve stress and anxiety. Once you allow your partner to tie you up,

 it’s almost like you end all ties with the real world around you and go into another dimension. This dimension is one of inner peace,

 thoughtfulness, and letting go. Yup, all in one.

 

Just imagine floating in midair, blindfolded, and with your loving Dom by your side. Is there anything better? Well, we dare argue not. Shibari is a perfect way to end a stressful day at work. It can help eliminate all that professional pressure in just a few knots. The same goes, of course, for private drama too.

The Idea Is Liberating

In all honesty, most people don’t know a thing about BDSM. Most of them think it’s just about hurting people for the sake of it. Unfortunately, that’s due to the mainstream portrayal of this subculture and the people involved in it. But, in reality, there’s much more to being into bondage, especially if you enjoy and understand how shibari works.

 

We’ve already said that you can legitimately say that shibari is art. With so many unique schools that delve into different ways of tying people, the possibilities are endless, and the results are always different. It can be a pretty liberating experience to try out something creative yet sexy and kinky. So, don’t let them fool you into thinking BDSM and shibari, in particular, are something you should be ashamed of.

Natural Sensations

Pain is a natural sensation. It’s a way for our body to tell us something’s up. On the other hand, sexual intercourse can and often is painful. From anal sex to taking someone’s virginity, feeling physical hurt is almost necessary. Therefore, shibari being somewhat painful doesn’t discourage people from pursuing it. It, moreover, persuades them to try it on with their partners in their little dungeons.

 

There’s no better way to tell someone that you’re in control than by hurting them. After all, we do it every day for numerous reasons, with or without acknowledging it. Of course, we’re not saying that you should go around hurting people just for the sake of it. But when it comes to BDSM sex, pain should at least have a small part in your kinky practice. Of course, it must be consensual and follow all RACK and SSC protocols to work.