Does it look like I’m a gold-digger because he’s always the one to pick up the tab?
I have to admit I’ve taken Nic’s generosity for granted before. One night after a Slinger’s game, Nic offered to buy dinner for all the bloggers. Every one thanked him profusely which made me realize I haven’t thanked Nic for the many dinners he’s bought me in years!
During the dinner, I looked him in the eyes and thanked him for the Kentucky Fried Chicken. It felt so awkward.
Yesterday, I receive an email from a stranger via my contact form,
XXX wrote: You seem to have the idea that the only way a man can express his interest in you is by buying you something or paying for something.
This is not true for me. I think Nic can express his interest by being genuinely interested in our conversations and by many other ways. Buying me something or paying for something is merely two of a number of ways.
XXX: Would you think it was just a friendly dinner if we make out afterwards?
Er… People don’t usually express their interest in me that way. 
XXX: It sounds like you are not interested in going out with a man unless he pays? Does that sound right to you?
Not true again. I do go out with other guys whom I do not expect to pay for me. Those are casual dinners that do not constitute a date. If it was a date, I would have expected the guy who asked me out to pay in full for it. Isn’t that only gentlemanly?
I just realized our way of handling dinner bills does make it look like I’m a gold-digger and allows room for me to take Nic’s generosity for granted.
Here’s two questions I’m genuinely seeking answers for,
- Should I start offering to pay or split the bill when we go out on a date? What do you think?
- If you were going on a date with a girl, will you feel used if you’re expected to foot the bill? If you were going on a date with a guy, will you feel offended if he offers to pay for you?
I will appreciate your honest reply on this.
