Precious Living

I have to admit that before I received these questions via my contact form, I was contented.

Our First Date

Our first date was at an Italian restaurant on the 7th floor of Mariott. I don’t remember if Nic paid or I paid but since most of our first dates were in Kuala Lumpur, I won’t be surprised if I paid as I wouldn’t have expected Nic to have so much Ringgits. But then again, I won’t be surprised if Nic had insisted on paying since he was making his first impression. Either way, it didn’t seem very important otherwise I would have remembered exactly who paid.

Nic used to ride the six-hour midnight bus from Singapore to KL on Fridays and then ride the six-hour midnight bus from KL to Singapore on Sundays just to take me on a date. If that wasn’t stressful enough, add to it the fact that he’s the type who suffers from motion sickness.

With going through all that, I definitely didn’t need him to spoil me with dinners or gifts to impress that he’s sacrificial.

Progress in the Relationship

It was only about two years later when I’ve quit my full-time job to work as a full-time freelance writer that most of our dates shifted to Singapore. In Singapore, Nic will always offer to pay, I didn’t have problems accepting it. By then, it almost felt like our money = our money even though our accounts are still separate.

What Male Readers Think

From the comments I received on my post on who should pay for dinner, it looks like some guys don’t mind spoiling his girl.
Alien TYC wrote,

I been paying most of the more expensive meals with my ex-gf and I do it because I love her and this is one of the little ways I show that there is nothing more important then love between us.

Some guys do mind, but will insist on paying for the first few dates just to make a good impression.
Mark wrote,

First few dates prior to getting steady, the guy should pay. But if after a long while going steady, the girl should offer.

Some guys fear if they do so, they will be taken for granted,
Kenny wrote,

It depends really, but it won’t hurt to at least offer yeah?

And the girls?

Daphne thinks guys should be gentlemen and pay for dinner but then if a guy really does spoil her with dinner, she’ll feel terribly embarrassed. She wrote,

i tink that guys shd pay. but that said, i often chip in or offer to pay for my own meal.

Well Daphne, what are you waiting for? Looks like Alien TYC is single! As for what I think? Exactly as I’ve written in the post title.