Does it look like I’m a gold-digger because he’s always the one to pick up the tab?
I have to admit I’ve taken Nic’s generosity for granted before. One night after a Slinger’s game, Nic offered to buy dinner for all the bloggers. Every one thanked him profusely which made me realize I haven’t thanked Nic for the many dinners he’s bought me in years!
During the dinner, I looked him in the eyes and thanked him for the Kentucky Fried Chicken. It felt so awkward.
Yesterday, I receive an email from a stranger via my contact form,
XXX wrote: You seem to have the idea that the only way a man can express his interest in you is by buying you something or paying for something.
This is not true for me. I think Nic can express his interest by being genuinely interested in our conversations and by many other ways. Buying me something or paying for something is merely two of a number of ways.
XXX: Would you think it was just a friendly dinner if we make out afterwards?
Er… People don’t usually express their interest in me that way. 
XXX: It sounds like you are not interested in going out with a man unless he pays? Does that sound right to you?
Not true again. I do go out with other guys whom I do not expect to pay for me. Those are casual dinners that do not constitute a date. If it was a date, I would have expected the guy who asked me out to pay in full for it. Isn’t that only gentlemanly?
I just realized our way of handling dinner bills does make it look like I’m a gold-digger and allows room for me to take Nic’s generosity for granted.
Here’s two questions I’m genuinely seeking answers for,
- Should I start offering to pay or split the bill when we go out on a date? What do you think?
- If you were going on a date with a girl, will you feel used if you’re expected to foot the bill? If you were going on a date with a guy, will you feel offended if he offers to pay for you?
I will appreciate your honest reply on this.
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This question is almost impossible to answer!
As a guy, I don’t mind paying for the meals but at least i hope my girl appreciates the gesture.
I been paying most of the more expensive meals with my ex-gf and she offered to pay for the less expensive or others like drinks/movies etc. I do earn more than her but that does not justify my gesture. Well i do it because I love her and this is one of the little ways I show that there is nothing more important then love between us.
Answer: Up to the guy lar! and the girl must zi dong abit(nowadays, girls can be richer than guys if they shop less)
*if nic offer to buy dinner again for all, give me a buzz. haha
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First few dates prior to getting steady, the guy should pay.
But if after a long while going steady, the girl should offer to chip in, regardless of expensive or not.
Of course if the girl is a materialistic one… then good luck to the guy…
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i tink that guys shd pay. but that said, i often chip in or offer to pay for my own meal.
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It depends really, but it won’t hurt to at least offer yeah?
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Hmm… does that mean women should offer to pay but not actually pay because men should pay?
lol… This is too much…
Guys should pay all the time because it is the gentlemanly thing to do… Vise versa, the women should cook and clean and do all the laundry because that’s the womans role…
How f***ed up does that sound?.. Good role for a woman?
Shut the fuck up.
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